123 Magic & Emotion Coaching

1 2 3 Magic® & Emotion Coaching Program

ParentingPlus delivers this six hour program on week nights to suit working parents  (one course per term), or by arrangement with schools and other services. We offer light refreshments and a relaxed, informal setting to share and discuss parenting challenges and concerns.

Program Content 

This six hour ParentingPlus course provides parents and carers with very important understanding and useful skills that can be implemented immediately, including:-

  • how to manage your child’s difficult behaviour through helping them to develop a more integrated brain
  • strategies to adopt a calm approach to your parenting role, even in those tough moments
  • ways to strengthen your relationship with your child. 

Recent research about the developing brain shows the importance of giving children the language of ‘feelings’, which in turn helps them to manage their own behaviour. This is done in a practical and ‘easy to follow’ way.

We now know that through learning to understand their emotions, we can assist our children to better handle strong emotions (like anger, disappointment and frustration), to be more resilient and make appropriate choices, and respond in a manner that is proportionate to any situation.

Program Components

The program covers the following topics:

  • The course philosophy, in which parents are familiarised with the two main aims of the program: to increase children’s ability to self manage, and to provide parents skills to take action in difficult-to-manage parenting situations
  • Contemporary thinking in child development with a particular emphasis on the differences between adult and children’s cognitive abilities
  • Clear thinking strategies for helping parents to sort between different types of behaviour
  • The two most common mistakes of parenting – too much to talk and too much emotion
  • Processes of pattern-establishment and pattern change including, how negative reinforcement works, the characteristics of patterns, the parent as participant observer, and how to interrupt patterns and extinction bursts
  • Response flexibility in parents and carers – knowing how to avoid getting ‘hooked’ by children’s negative emotions
  • How to choose the best strategy – Do nothing, listen or act?
  • The 1-2-3 Magic® technique:
    o what it is, and is not, used for
    o how it’s done
    o how to implement it at home
    o how to avoid the two biggest mistakes of parenting
  • Developing response flexibility in children:
    o response flexibility in the brain: What’s new?
    o emotion coaching and its effectiveness as a relationship enhancing tool
    o cognitive strategies parents can teach children
  • Start behaviour tactics and strategies

Authors of the 1 2 3 Magic® & Emotion Coaching Program: 

Dr. Thomas Phelan is a US-based clinical psychologist and the author of several books in the area of child behaviour problems. Michael Hawton is an Australian psychologist and teacher who has worked with children and their families for over 25 years. Michael’s work has taken him all over Australia and New Zealand. He has spoken at numerous international conferences and written a number of books. Michael’s aim is to make psychological information accessible to everybody and in particular, to make parenting easier.